You’ve got the pork belly marinating and the rice cooker on. If the only bottle on the table is beer, you’re one small decision away from doing the night properly.

Walk into any HDB void deck barbecue pit on a Friday night in Singapore right now and you’ll see it: tongs in one hand, phone propped up with a K-drama paused mid-episode, someone arguing about whether the samgyeopsal needs another minute. The Korean food scene here isn’t a trend anymore, it’s just what Fridays look like in a lot of homes from Tampines to Tiong Bahru. What’s usually missing from that table is the one drink that’s actually built for it.

Soju is not vodka in a prettier bottle, and it’s not meant to be sipped like whisky. Traditional soju sits around 16 to 21 percent alcohol, distinctly lighter than most Western spirits, which is exactly why it survives a two-hour BBQ session without wrecking the night. The etiquette matters too, and it’s part of the fun: pour for others, not yourself, hold your glass with both hands (or one hand supporting the wrist) when someone senior pours for you, and turn your head slightly away from elders when you drink. It’s a small ritual that makes a home dinner feel like an occasion instead of just another Tuesday.

Serving temperature is where most people get it wrong. Soju wants to be cold, properly cold, straight from the fridge or nestled in a bowl of ice on the table, the way it’s served at BBQ joints across Seoul. Room temperature soju tastes flat and slightly medicinal. Cold soju tastes clean.

Then there’s the range, and this is where it gets interesting for anyone who’s only ever had the one green bottle version. Modern soju splits broadly into two camps: the traditional, slightly sharper originals, and the fruit-flavoured line that’s exploded in popularity over the last few years, think grapefruit, peach, green grape, yogurt. The fruit-flavoured styles are a genuinely good entry point if you’re pouring for guests who find spirits intimidating, they’re lower-proof again and sweeter, closer to a soft cocktail than a shot. Pairing-wise, the classic move is grilled pork belly and soju, the slight char and fat cutting against the soju’s cleanness, but it also holds its own next to spicy tteokbokki or a plate of kimchi jjigae if your Friday leans more stew than grill.

None of this needs to be complicated. Chill it properly, pour for the people around your table before yourself, and pick a bottle that matches the mood, sharper for a proper meal, fruit-forward for a lighter gathering or a watch-party where nobody’s committing to a full session.